Happy New Year and Getting some answers for you

If you are reading this blog it means that your daughter is most likely going to get married this year (2011). Maybe it just happened this past weekend or over the Christmas holiday. If so, welcome to the club. Either it is just around the corner or you have a little breathing room before the big day. My intention is to help you get ready. Sometimes the information is for you and other times it will be for her. This time it is for you.

The advice is simple. Spend a little time asking other "Dad's" who have had daughters get married if they have any advice for you. Don't restrict the advice subject or even the timeliness of the wedding. Ask people that had daughters married last week, last year or even in the last century. Ask your father in law. Ask a grand parent.  You get the idea. Just ask them for their advice. You will have fun with the answers.

After you get by some of the early responses that will usually revolve around: how much more money they spent than expected. how crazy things got or they cannot believe what "Aunt "Harriet" or Uncle "Fred" did that night; you will be excited, impressed and maybe even shocked by their responses.

Here are some great questions to ask them.
1. How big was the wedding? Was there too many people? Not enough? Where did they get married?
2. What was their best moment?
3. Do you have any advice for me?
4. What would you do differently if you could?
5. How was the walk down the aisle? The father/daughter dance?

Finally don't forget to ask your daughter about her expectations, dreams, ideas. After all she is the star of the show. Her mom (if allowed) is probably the Director and that leaves you most likely with the title of Executive Producer... you know what that means.  That title of course goes along very nicely with "Father of the Bride" as well.

Note: Please make sure that you go back and read some of the earlier blogs. There is one called early steps that has some great information for new brides and their Dad's.
PS: If you have a question, just send it to me at michael@piazzainthevillage.com. I would be very pleased to answer it.
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